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I decided to do one other thing.. I have made available on my website (www.CynthiaBaileyRug.com) my notes that I used in my podcasts & YouTube videos. Since some folks have issues with sensory processing or just prefer to read rather than watch a video or listen to a podcast, I thought I would do this for them. The notes are all on this link. Feel free to download as many as you like for your personal reference. As I add new podcasts in the future, I’ll naturally add the notes to this page. If you lose the link, simply visit www.CynthiaBaileyRug.com & look at the list of links at the top of the page. You’ll see it there.
Also, I added a search bar to my website, so you can find information on there easier now. Rather than read through lots of pages, you can simply type in your search critera & it will bring up results. Enjoy!
Thank you to everyone who has been so encouraging about the changes I’ve decided to make. I truly value your input. 💖
After a conversation with a dear friend in early July, she inspired me to write a new book. It is designed for a slightly different audience than usual. Normally I write for those of us who know at least some about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This book, however, is written for those who know something is wrong with a person in their life who is extremely selfish & manipulative, but they just aren’t sure what it is yet.
“It’s Not You, It’s Them: When People Are More Than Selfish” helps these people to understand Narcissistic Personality Disorder, deal with the behaviors if they opt to stay in a relationship with the narcissist, & ways they can help themselves heal.
I’ve learned so much about NPD in recent months & have felt such a strong desire to help victims of narcissistic abuse & raise awareness, I believe this book had to be written. Admittedly, I’ve never written a book so quickly before, but I believe it must be for a reason. I pray God is going to use it mightily.
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Over the years, some of my readers have told me that they believe I’m a warrior for those who have endured narcissistic abuse. That has always stuck in the back of my mind because I knew it was important.
Just recently, their words came to the forefront of my mind & wouldn’t leave. I knew it was important but didn’t know why. Every time I got onto Facebook the other day, I got a hint. I kept finding memes that said things about how victims of abuse need a voice when they can’t speak up, don’t be afraid to speak up against abuse, & other similar topics. I think it was 7 memes I found that spoke such messages to me. I realized what the purpose of all of this was.
I need to be more outspoken against narcissistic abuse, & to help educate people about its devastating effects. People don’t know much, if anything, about such topics unless they have been a victim, & that needs to change. I realize that I alone can’t change the world, but hopefully I can make a difference.
How I need to make a difference, I’m not entirely sure! So far, I think I need to focus on promoting & encouraging people to participate in The Butterfly Project with me, & share what I learn no only here in my blog, but also in my Facebook group & personal page.
I’d like to ask for prayer on this topic from you, Dear Readers. I need to know what to do & how to do it. I also need wisdom & courage to do God’s will.
While I feel peace about this, a part of me is also somewhat nervous.
I feel that God will want me to make some of the posts on my personal Facebook page public, which is something I never do. This also allows people I’m not friends with to see those posts, which makes me uncomfortable. I don’t want strangers peek into my life. This also could include people my parents know who are on Facebook. While I know the things I write about regarding my parents are true & never said in a hateful way, they would be furious if they knew what I write about. I really don’t want to deal with that.
Sharing on my personal Facebook also makes me nervous because when I’ve shared things about narcissism, C-PTSD & (rarely) my own experiences, some people I know have been less than supportive. I’ve been told to get over it, I’m using C-PTSD for attention, I need to figure out how to work things out with my parents, they won’t be around forever & other invalidating, cruel things. While I can handle their ignorance or spitefulness, it’s just not something I care to deal with. I’ve reached a point in my life where I’m simply tired of people who think I’m stupid, unreasonable, etc. or who project their own issues onto me. I try to avoid that as much as possible, & putting things on my personal Facebook page, even just attempting to educate people, could potentially open the door for such people
So as I mentioned, I really could use some prayer to help me do whatever it is God would have me do. Thank you so much, Dear Readers! And, you’re in my prayers as well! xoxo
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I vowed some time ago to keep my blog real, to be honest about my experiences, both the good & bad ones. My hope is that you can learn from my mistakes.
A few days ago, I read a quote on Facebook from the book “Boundaries” by Drs. Cloud & Townsend. It says,
“Another damaging effect of abuse or molestation is the destruction of a sense of ownership over the victim’s soul. In fact, victims often feel like they are public property- that their resources, body & time should be available to others just for the asking.”
Although I’ve read “Boundaries” several times, I never related to that quote so well as I have recently. It perfectly sums up how I’ve always felt.
Interestingly, this quote came to my attention a couple of hours after receiving a message from one of my readers. When I saw I had a message, I cringed a bit. Not because the person was someone I didn’t like (she was lovely to talk with) or I didn’t want to help this person, but because I have gotten so tired lately of all things narcissism. I’ve also been more depressed than usual for about a month. Considering my feelings & then this quote, I immediately realized something about myself. I haven’t been practicing what I preach. I haven’t been taking frequent breaks. I slipped back into the old, dysfunctional habit of feeling as if I need to be there for anyone & everyone, at all times, always being the strong one & fixing everything.
*bangs head into walls*
I really hate backsliding! It’s especially insulting since I was doing better in this area. God showed me a few months ago that when I got so sick in 2015 from carbon monoxide poisoning, one of the reasons was basically to force me to take better care of myself. Since getting sick, sometimes now my body &/or mind gets extremely tired & I have no choice but to rest, which has proven to be a good thing. At least until this past month, when I slid back into ignoring my physical & mental health, pushing myself past my limits.
I decided the other day this has to stop. Right now, I have a sick kitty who needs my attention & I also need a break from all things narcissism.
I started by asking a very close friend to help me manage my group by being an admin in there. When I need a break, she can keep an eye on things. When I told my group, they were incredibly supportive. Another dear friend who is in my group sent me a private message, telling me it’s ok to take breaks, I don’t always have to be the strong one & she is there for me. I was very moved by the wonderful show of support & love! Truly, my group is amazing. 🙂 If you’re interested in joining, you can check it out here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/FansOfCynthiaBaileyRug/
While I was recovering last year, I was able to write many blog posts. So many, I have them written 3 months in advance. Plus wordpress publishes them to Facebook, Google Plus, Linkedin, etc. automatically. I don’t write blog posts every other day, as it may look since that’s when they are published. Please keep that in mind if you try to contact me via this blog or my social network sites. If I don’t respond quickly, please forgive me, but I needed a break. Otherwise, I’ll respond quickly.
Interestingly since I decided to take breaks, I already feel less pressure & depressed. Knowing I can take breaks as needed has taken a large weight off my shoulders!
My reason for this post, Dear Reader, is two fold. For one thing, I want you to know what is happening, so if I don’t respond to you in a timely manner, you won’t feel that I don’t care. I truly do! I also care about myself, though, & know being “on call” is too much pressure for me to handle.
For another thing, I want you to learn from my mistake. Never, ever forget that Narcissistic Personality Disorder & recovering from narcissistic abuse are extremely serious, complex & painful topics. Frequent breaks from thinking & talking about narcissism are absolutely vital to one’s mental & physical health! I think it is very normal to obsess at first. Once you have an answer to why someone treated you as they did, it’s only natural to want to know more about why they behaved that way. It also feels so good to learn that you aren’t the problem as you were told you were. Who wouldn’t want to understand why they were blamed for being abused?! And, since narcissism is so complex, it’s pretty much a bottomless pit of things you can learn about it. You should learn about narcissism. It will empower you to do so. That being said though, due to its complex nature & the pain of narcissistic abuse, you will need to take frequent breaks away from the topics. During those times, refuse to think about or discuss narcissism. Relax. Do things you enjoy. The balance will help you to stay strong & avoid depression. You’ll know when you need a break, too- your mood will sink & you’ll be thinking about narcissism constantly. Listen to these cues! I didn’t, & look what has happened to me. Please learn from my mistakes & don’t make the same ones I have!
Take good care of yourself, Dear Reader! I’m praying for you as I hope you pray for me! xoxo
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Since I began writing about narcissism, surviving narcissistic abuse & the awful effects on its victims, some people have told me I need to focus on writing about lighter, more pleasant topics. It’s too negative. People need to think about positive things, not just the negative. I only write about what I do because I’m wallowing in the past. I need to forget it & move on.
The truth is, I do agree with the fact that people need to focus on positive things, not just the negative. That is all I agree with in the above statements however.
In all honesty, writing about narcissism isn’t easy. I’m often learning something new, & it can be depressing just how pervasive narcissism & narcissistic abuse are. I get tired of it all. It’s a very emotionally draining topic & can be triggering for my C-PTSD. I have to take time to deliberately refuse to focus on it to help me not to get mired down in the depressing negativity that is narcissism.
That being said, I don’t plan to quit anytime soon.
For one thing, I believe God wants me to write about this topic. He has given me the ability to write & also to understand quite a lot about narcissism. Not that I know everything on the topic of course- I don’t think anyone does- but I do know a lot. My personal experiences have taught me a great deal as well as things I have read.
For another thing, when someone thanks me for teaching them something they’ve been searching for an answer for, it is incredibly rewarding.
It’s also rewarding to let people know they aren’t alone. Since narcissistic abuse makes its victims feel so alone, learning they aren’t is a really big deal!
There is nothing more rewarding than knowing you helped to improve someone’s life. That alone makes it all worth while!
And, in all honesty, writing helps me as well. I’m finally validated! Seeing things in writing somehow helps me to realize that what happened to me was real, & it was terrible. It makes it more real than just remembering things, probably since I dissociated so much as a child. It also helps validate me when people believe me & offer support & understanding. That almost never happened until I started writing. So please forgive my selfish motive but I need this validation!
If you are considering writing about your experiences with narcissistic abuse, just know it won’t be easy, but it will be worth it!
Remember that if you opt to write about it, narcissism is a terribly negative topic. You will need to counter the negativity with positive. Indulge in things you enjoy often, such as a favorite hobby.
Do nice things for yourself to reward yourself after writing. Even a short blog post like this one can be surprisingly draining sometimes- reward yourself for putting forth the effort.
Make time where you flatly refuse to think about NPD or anything related to it. Deliberately focus on something else. Anything else.
If you opt to write a blog, write posts in advance & schedule them to publish without your assistance. That way, if you feel inspired, you can write several posts at once, or if you feel uninspired, you can take a break. Your blog will post anyway. I have a lot of posts ready to go- over 3 months into the future.
Don’t feel bad for taking frequent breaks. It’s good for your mental health!
If you choose to write a book, be forewarned- that is much more challenging than writing in a blog. Blog posts are usually short which makes them easier to handle. Writing a full book, however is different. Chances are, you’ll go on a bender & end up writing a lot in one sitting, probably often, which will exhaust you. You may plan to write for only half an hour but end up spending your afternoon in front of the computer. Trust me on this one- been there, done that! Writing a book about narcissism, especially if it is about your personal experiences, is an emotional roller coaster.
So if you are considering writing about narcissism, I strongly urge you to pray about it. Ask God if this is the route He wants you to take, how He wants you to write (blog, books, etc) & if it is, to enable you to do it. Ask for strength, courage & wisdom, because you will need all three & more.
Good morning, Dear Readers!
A few days ago, I finished a book for parents of children affected by narcissistic abuse. I believe it will help those of you in that painful position, including those of you co-parenting with a narcissist.
The book is available in both ebook & print format, as usual. The ebook version can be found here:
The print version can be found here:
Within a few weeks, both also can be found on amazon, Barnes & Nobel & other websites as well as my own site, www.CynthiaBaileyRug.com
The book is shorter than my other books, but please don’t be discouraged by its size. I would rather print a small book full of good information than a much larger one filled with fluff. And, I’m sure readers prefer that as well.
Since I’ve learned so much about narcissistic abuse & started writing about it, I’ve had many people contact me looking for answers. Some I simply can’t help, because helping others is hard on me emotionally. It’s a tremendous responsibility helping people, & I take it very seriously. When people ask me for help, I try to offer it to the best of my ability. Even if I’m writing books or blog posts like this, I want to provide good, helpful, truthful information.
As a result, people look to me as if I have all the answers sometimes. The fact is though, I don’t. I also make mistakes. Lots of them. And often.
When I first started writing about narcissistic abuse, I was loathe to admit mistakes I’ve made. Frankly, it can be embarrassing sometimes. I’ve done some amazingly dumb things! As time has passed though, I realized that people have more respect for someone who is real, willing to admit their shortcomings & mistakes, than they do for someone who acts as though they never slip up.
So many people in positions like mine seem to be afraid they’ll lose popularity if they admit their flaws. So instead of being open about themselves, they present a false image of perfection. This can be extremely discouraging to people following their teaching. It was for me. I felt like a failure, like I didn’t have enough faith or not praying the right way. I felt “less than.”
There are three preachers on TV that I absolutely love & have loved since I first became a Christian- Jesse Duplantis, TD Jakes & Joyce Meyer. Aside from the fact their preaching makes so much sense to me, they also admit their mistakes & shortcomings. They’re real! Listening to them or reading their books never makes me feel bad about where I am in life. Quite the opposite. They make me realize I’m OK while encouraging me to continue learning & growing.
Another bonus to being open is you lose the shame over your flaws. Bringing them into the open loosens that shame much like sunlight destroys vampires in the old legends. Hiding them gives them power over you. Power to keep you feeling embarrassed & even ashamed of yourself.
The reason I’m telling you this, Dear Reader, is to encourage you.
No doubt that as you recover from narcissistic abuse you will begin to share some of your experiences. Maybe only with those very close to or maybe you will feel led to write about it like I have. In any case, I want to encourage you to be open about it. People will respect you for your transparency. So few people in the world are genuine these days, & the few that are, are greatly appreciated. And, if you end up in a position of helping others, they will be encouraged when they realize you, someone who is teaching them, have made mistakes & are able to learn from them. They also will feel comfortable enough to approach you. You may be the only person they tell about their painful experiences, & opening up can help them tremendously.
It’s funny… sometimes your mistakes really can be a part of your ministry to others!
Recently, I had an interesting dream. It showed me that I need to change direction slightly with my writing. I’ve been sensing I need to do this for a while, but I think now is the time to do it.
While definitely narcissism & what I learn about it as I go will be a priority, I believe it’s time to include other, lighter topics as well. What those topics are, I’m not sure yet. God will lead me, as always. I’m open to suggestions though- you can comment on this post or email me at CynthiaBaileyRug@aol.com. I’ll pray about the suggestions I receive before writing about them, so your suggestion may appear a while in the future or may be tweaked a bit when I write about it. Please don’t take that personally- I lean on God a lot with what I write, much more than people.
Anyway, I think this is a good idea to lighten up some. The simple fact is writing & focusing about narcissism so much can be pretty overwhelming for me, & I don’t need the C-PTSD triggered any more than it already is. I think reading about it can have the same overwhelming effect on many people. Learning about narcissism & the damage it causes is essential to your healing from narcissistic abuse, of course. It helps you to heal & gives you the answers you’ve been wanting. However, it is also an extremely negative topic & can take a toll on your emotions. Physically it can drain you, too.
I find it’s best to have balance- times where you learn about narcissism & related topics, time where you focus on your healing, but also times where you refuse to think about such things, instead focusing your energies into more positive, lighter endeavors. Not doing so, but instead focusing constantly on it brings you down badly. I’ve noticed it on various Facebook pages or groups for adult daughters of narcissistic mothers. So many people obsess, & you can tell just by how they write that they aren’t happy. They spend all their time thinking about the horrors they have been through or abusive people- how could they be happy??
Instead of doing that, I would like to encourage you today to take breaks. You’ll know when you need one- you’ll begin to feel your emotions starting to sink. You’ll catch yourself thinking of your own awful experiences or you’ll be angry at your narcissistic mother often. You’ll think mostly about narcissism. These are signs it’s time to take a break. Take an afternoon or even a few days where you deliberately refuse to focus on anything related to NPD. Indulge in your favorite hobbies, read a new book, hang out with close friends.. do things that you enjoy & make you feel good. Then, you can get back to a more balanced approach. You’ll feel much better about it after your break.
I finished my latest book, “Life After Narcissistic Abuse: There Is Healing and Hope”!!! YAY ME!!
This book is all about describing the variety of symptoms survivors of narcissistic abuse experience, & offering some suggestions on how to cope with & heal from them. I have learned a lot in the last couple of years about this topic, especially in the last few months, & put it all in this book. God has showed me so much, & I’m praying what I have learned will help others as well.
If you’d like to check it out, you can see it & all of my books at www.CynthiaBaileyRug.com
Lately, I’ve been thinking. (Scary huh?? lol)
I really would like to be able to expand the topics I write about. In all honesty, I’m tired of thinking so much about narcissism. Not that I want to quit writing about it entirely of course- I’d just like to talk about other things sometimes too. Be a bit more diverse
I’ve asked God to guide my writing. I ask God to show me what to write about (admittedly, probably not as often as I should..) which is where my blog & book subject matters come from. I’m going to be praying more about this topic though & would appreciate your prayers as well. I’m sure this urge to cover other topics isn’t only me- it’s God guiding me, probably preparing me for something else that is on its way.
I’ve started a little.. I’ve decided once my current book on recovering from narcissistic abuse is done, my next book project will be finishing the fiction book I started a few years ago. That book is maybe one third done..it’s time to finish it.
I also added some information about my experiences with carbon monoxide poisoning on my website. I’ve read a lot about it since I went through it last February, & what has struck me as truly sad is how many others who have been through it feel so isolated. People don’t seem to grasp just how serious & horrible it is to live with the disruptive symptoms. Writing about it is my attempt to help these people feel less alone, & less crazy. It also seems to have helped me a little to write out my experiences. (Bonus for me!) If you know someone who has suffered through carbon monoxide poisoning or you would care to read it, then click this link: http://cynthiabaileyrug.com/Carbon-Monoxide-Poisoning.php
Maybe I could write some about natural/herbal things. I know many people associate such things with casting spells & such, but I don’t. I believe God created herbs & plants with the properties they have for a reason & for our use. Why shouldn’t we benefit from them? I love herbal remedies & beauty recipes. I’d love to share what I know as well as learn from others.
If there are other topics you would like me to write about, I’m open to suggestions. I may not use them, it will depend on what I believe God wants me to do, so please don’t be offended if I don’t write about what you suggest. Anyway feel free to leave your suggestions in the comments of this post, or email me at: CynthiaBaileyRug@aol.com I look forward to hearing from you! 🙂
I just wanted to take a moment today to talk to all of you who read my blog, & to extend a very warm welcome all of my new followers! I can’t thank you enough for following my blog- it is very humbling & flattering when people read what I write. I never take anyone for granted, & truly appreciate every one of you who follow my writing.
Even more humbling & flattering are all of the wonderful comments I’ve received lately about how my work is helping people from old & new fans. Thank you so much everyone!!
I honestly never expected to write about the topics I write about. God led me in this direction, & it’s not an easy one. Some days it is extremely draining emotionally & physically, thinking so much about such a horrible thing as NPD & all of the problems it has caused me. But, when I learn that what I write is helping people, that makes it all worth while. Your kind words & desire to read what I wrote motivate me to keep going, as well as to keep learning & growing, partly so I can share what God teaches me with you. Thank you everyone for helping me to fulfill the call God has put on me, & also to help myself heal. Sending all of you much love, & praying for you too. xoxo
Recently, I was told what I write about is too negative. I’m sure many of you have heard similar things for talking or writing about your experiences with narcissistic abuse. I’m writing this for you, Dear Reader. I hope it helps you. xoxo
I’ll admit, the main topic of my writing, narcissism & narcissistic abuse, aren’t exactly positive, happy topics! I’ll also admit that sometimes, it gets to me, writing about such dark things. That being said, I will continue to write about what I write about for several reasons.
To start with, I believe this to be a calling from God, & I take any calling from Him very seriously. Everyone has a calling, usually several during the course of their lives. Ephesians 4:11-13 states, “And His gifts were [varied; He Himself appointed and gave men to us] some to be apostles (special messengers), some prophets (inspired preachers and expounders), some evangelists (preachers of the Gospel, traveling missionaries), some pastors (shepherds of His flock) and teachers. 12 His intention was the perfecting and the full equipping of the saints (His consecrated people), [that they should do] the work of ministering toward building up Christ’s body (the church) 13 [That it might develop] until we all attain oneness in the faith and in the comprehension of the [full and accurate] knowledge of the Son of God, that [we might arrive] at really mature manhood (the completeness of personality which is nothing less than the standard height of Christ’s own perfection), the measure of the stature of the fullness of the Christ and the completeness found in Him.” (AMP)
Also, writing about what I learn helps me to make sense of the things I have gone through, as well as to help others to do the same. So many who have suffered with narcissistic abuse are struggling to make sense of it all. I can help a little by sharing my experiences as well as what I have learned.
Writing about things also helps to loosen the hold the abuse has on me. By being open about things, I am losing the shame I once felt for being abused, & am able to see more & more how none of it was my fault. This not only helps me, but enables me to get the message to other victims that being abused is NOT their fault.
It also helps to make my pain count for something. Knowing I am able to help other people means my pain was not in vain. Something good has come from something horrible!
Also, by being open about the taboo topic of narcissistic parents, it helps to raise awareness of this insidious, evil form of abuse. It makes it safe for victims to talk about it with other victims instead of quietly suffering alone. So many are afraid to talk about what their mother did to them, because so many people put mothers on a pedestal. People make victims feel guilty for being abused, as if it was their fault! They can’t seem to grasp that a mother would abuse her child. Certainly the child must be exaggerating. Of course the mother made mistakes- no one is perfect- & the child should forgive the mother. And, let’s not forget “honor thy mother” seems to mean “allow thy mother to abuse you” to many people. Because of people like this, as well as the ignorance surrounding Narcissistic Personality Disorder, there needs to be more awareness of this horrible phenomenon.
Don’t let anyone quiet you for talking about your experiences with your narcissistic mother, father, sibling, grandparent, friend, spouse or co-worker. You aren’t being negative by discussing your experiences. And, chances are, by discussing them, you are not only helping yourself to process your horrendous experiences, you are also helping to enlighten others who need to hear your story! So be open- talk about it!
I thought I would let you know what’s happening on the book front with me..
I now have two books I’m working on as I can. Unfortunately I’m still recovering from the carbon monoxide poisoning & the concussion that came with it, so writing is a challenge for me at the moment. (as if writing with C-PTSD isn’t enough of a challenge sometimes..lol) But, I’m trying to do a little as often as I can.
My one book is a fictional story I started over a year ago. I had it about halfway done when the external hard drive it was on crashed, taking my book with it. (Tears were shed, let me tell ya!) I decided to start working on it again, trying to recreate what was lost. It was inspired by the movie “Gaslight”- the movie from which the term gaslighting was coined. It takes place here in Maryland in the late 1800’s. It’s about a young widow who, after her mourning period, is caught up in a whirlwind romance with a man who in truth is only after her money. In order to have full access to it, he decides to drive his pretty young wife insane. He enlists the help of the young maid he’s having an affair with by telling her that his wife is really his sister, & he’s trying to help her show symptoms of her “illness” since she usually hides them from the doctor. She reluctantly agrees. As they are in the process of driving this woman insane, the wife & maid end up learning the truth, & decide to turn the tables on him, driving him insane instead.
My other book is going to be about recovering from narcissistic abuse. I’ve read so much about it, but there are plenty of things I haven’t read- I had to experience them & learn about them firsthand instead. For example, if you read about C-PTSD (very common with survivors or narcissistic abuse), it says many people experience nightmares. It’s often implied that the nightmares are about re-experiencing the traumatic events. I have learned that although that happens, it’s more rare, & nightmares are often things that are very upsetting yet symbolic of past trauma instead.
So anyway, these two are my current projects. I’m not sure when they’ll be released. Honestly, I don’t even feel comfortable setting a goal on that right now, not until I recover more. I’ll be sure to share when they will be released as the day comes closer though.
Dear Readers, I just wanted to let you know that although I’ve been trying to post daily, I’m going to have to reduce posting to every other day, at least for now. I’ve realized posting daily is too stressful for me. The last six months or so of my life have been over the top chaotic, & even though things are calming down, I’m still feeling super anxious. Naturally that anxiety makes the C-PTSD flare up. (Yay me.. not.) So, I need to start practicing what I preach & taking better care of my mental health. One way to do that is to reduce stress so unfortunately that means reducing blog posts a bit. I’m sorry about this, & hope it isn’t permanent. I also appreciate your understanding.
As always, please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to write about in this blog.. I’m always up for suggestions. You can comment on this post or email me anytime at CynthiaBaileyRug@aol.com
Also, if you wish to meet others who have survived narcissistic parents, you can go to my private forum at: http://cynthiasforum.boards.net/ or you can join my closed facebook group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/FansOfCynthiaBaileyRug/ Both have privacy settings in place, so what you stay remains within the confines of the forum or group, & only other members can see your comments.
I was talking with my husband the other night about my work. I mentioned how other teachings on narcissism I read sometimes just don’t sit well with me even if I normally agree 100% with the author’s thoughts, & how I do my best to be sure what I say can be backed up in the Bible. One thing came to mind during this conversation that has been in the back of my mind for years now,since before I started writing, in fact..
I was watching Joyce Meyer preaching on TV one day. She said she’d been asking God for more & more people to reach & to be able to help. In response to her prayer, God told her that as many people as she can help, she can also hurt, so be careful. i thought this is incredibly wise!
So many people find someone whose teachings or preaching they like. They relate to much of what that person has to say, & they almost blindly follow anything that person says. This is NOT wise to do, however! Just because you identify with this person’s preaching or teaching, doesn’t mean this person is always right! All human beings make a mistake sometimes!
I do my level best in my blog, on my website, in my books & anything I write to make sure what I say can be verified by the Bible. Yet, even so, I’m human. I’m sure I’ve made mistakes sometimes & will continue to make mistakes. I just try my best to keep those mistakes to a minimum.
I have been blessed with some wonderful, caring, intelligent, empathetic fans who have sent me wonderful messages of support & thanking me for all I write. It’s amazing! I love those messages. But, I also want you to be sure that if you follow my writing, don’t do so blindly! If something doesn’t sound right to you, look it up. Pray about it. Like I said, I do my best not to make mistakes, but sometimes I just might make them anyway! & if you find something I’ve written is wrong, feel free to let me know your thoughts. I am very aware of what Joyce Meyer has said, that as many people as I can help, I can also hurt, & hurting people is the absolute last thing I want to do.
Good afternoon, Dear Readers!
I just wanted to let you know I received my proof copy of my book today. It looks great but I’ll inspect it closer tonight. Barring any unforseen issues, I’ll approve it tomorrow, & it’ll be available not only on my website as it is now, but also on amazon, B&N, & other online book sellers within about a month.
Also, thank you everyone for the prayers. My father is now home from the hospital.
I am VERY happy to announce that my latest book, “It’s All About ME! The Facts About Maternal Narcissism” is finished!!!!!
Print version is available here..(available for sale on this site only since I haven’t gotten the proof to approve yet. Once that’s approved within the next week or so, it’ll be on Amazon, B&N, etc)
Here’s the ebook version…(currently only on publisher’s site only, but once approved within a week or so, it will be in the ibook store, B&N, etc.)
And now, I’m taking a well earned break.
This was a very challenging book to write. God had His hand in it the whole time, which is the only reason I was able to write it. He kept showing me things that I needed to include. Some things I admit, I thought “You’re kidding right?” Then something would happen & I realized that yes, this needs to be in the book too. It was a fascinating experience for sure, but emotionally difficult, hence the break.
I plan to focus for a while on this blog as well as building up my forum. If you haven’t seen it yet, come by & check it out at:
At the forum, I have several different categories where you can post. Not only about narcissistic mothers & the damage they cause, but more positive categories too, such as pets, hobbies & the Christian life. After all, no one can focus on the abuse they endured or even their emotional healing 24/7. Everyone needs a break sometimes. I hope to see you there.
Also, I still would like to create a free ebook compiled of stories from those who have been through abuse, & have survived with God’s help. I only have a couple of stories so far. Would you considering writing yours? You can do so anonymously if you like- just use fake names. Your story can encourage others, no matter what you have been through, or where you are in your healing process. For more details, please check out the link below. I hope to hear from you soon! ❤